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I have read through many parts of Matia's dissertation and it is fascinating. The part that I just skimmed was where she discusses that some mothers of IC patients may have not been nurturing through childhood. I know she is not saying this is true in all cases, but certainly in mine and I am beginning to see a pattern with my own kids. Luckily, since I am treatment, I am breaking that cycle. I actually think my mom has IC too and no wonder why she couldn't be nurturing, she was busy licking her own wounds. I can definitely relate to needing validation in my relationships and having stress because of that. I am definitely an A type personality. I was constipated so badly as a child that my aunt remembers sitting in the bathroom with me when I was four and reading stories to me while I cried because I was so constipated. No wonder why I have IC. I am loving this dissertation because almost everything that Matia wrote is me in a nutshell. At least I don't feel like a freak! The best part is that I am going through treatment and I don't even care if my bladder burns anymore or not, I am going to be a better person all around when I am done!
thanks for sharing
wow, I was not expecting something like that to be in the dissertation but that is so interesting!!! I too was extremely constipated as a child--I would hold my stool for so long (I think it was pressing on hemorrhoids from constipation so I had rectal pain and was afraid to go) that my stool would blow up huge and my mother could never figure out how I eventually passed it!! It used to scare her. What does it say about nurturing? that people with ic are not nurtured during childhood? My mother was very gentle, good at taking care of me when I was sick, she was very loving, but she also spent a lot of hours alone in her room crying and depressed. My dad was always leaving the house angry with a packed suitcase. I think I had a lot of fear of being abandoned, and feeling like I couldn't always trust my parents to take care of things. Does that go along with what the dissertation says? I want to buy one, just can't yet.
thanks for sharing!!
that's so interesting!
Thanks Jeanette and ICnotforme! I have not gotten the dissertation yet but I really want to. I have yet to really explore about the emotional energetic components of IC. Its facinating! In my own life my mom was sweet and gentle too and we were close when I was little but as I grew older we didn't seem to connect very well. My mother struggled with low self esteem and depression after a hysterectomy and an unexpected loss of unemployment a few years later. ( She is doing good now.) but I too struggle with depression and low self esteem myself. My great grandmother did as well. Perhaps this is something that I think runs in my family. Let me say I know that there will be plenty of folks out there who suffer from IC and who had wonderful nurturing relationships with thier moms also I don't want to sound like I feel my Mom is to blame for my own physical condition.not at all. If anything it makes me feel compassion for her suffering and want to improve our relationship. I want to ask her about that time in her life and about her grandmother's life. I feel by healing IC I will be healing my pain and my families pain too. I want to stop the cycle of suffering. thank you.
Mary