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I honestly just don’t know what to do. I’m at my wits end. Ever since I got back from my vacation at the end of April I have been a mess. I can’t seem to get control of my symptoms, I’ve been on so many different combinations of herbs/probiotics that my head is spinning. Nothing is working and I feel so awful. I’m at the point of wondering why I’m even doing this. I’m 7 months in and we just can’t find the right combo. Its been so many weeks of not feeling good. I’m just miserable. And I think maybe this is just not what’s wrong with me. But, then I think of so many of the random symptoms that I’ve had along with the vulvodynia and it seems so in line with a lot of the imbalance symptoms people get… increasingly bad ibs symptoms (which basically went away on the diet), development of environmental allergies (also seemingly gone now), nerve pain in my legs that no one seems to be able to explain (especially since it switched legs randomly and then started up in my sacrum), the beginnings of bladder symptoms (also basically gone), the boughts of changes in body odor (which matia says is common for people with imbalances), freezing cold hands and feet, hair shedding… but then why am I not getting better? I’m 7 months into treatment, this is the point at which people start to feel the real significant improvements. What is wrong with me? I feel so enraged at my body right now. Do I give up? But then where else would I go? I just don’t understand why we can’t find a combo that will help me. when we had found a good combo before I went on vacation, I remember thinking oh, this is what it feels like when you hit the mark. But, I haven’t had that feeling since then. Everything just feels wrong. Even the “new approach” we started recently (a combo of rehmanniae herbs) has made me feel worse. I am afraid we are running out of things for me to try. I am just so, so down and my vulvodynia and legs are so flared. i'm even feeling burning in my right leg now which i haven't felt in ages. i just feel like i have gone completely backwards. I know this is the last kind of post anyone needs to see and im sorry. I just feel completely alone and hopeless.
I completely feel for you
I completely feel for you!!
Having regressed myself the last couple months and not sure what it's going to take to get back, I can tell you a couple things I remember reading on here that I'm trying to hold onto when I have many of the same thoughts/fears as you:
- That Matia will never give up on anyone.
- That some people struggled for months w/ no improvement before getting better.
- That some people had their other things clear up first (as you describe) but their main issue was the last to totally clear. And that some had greater / continued pain not because things weren't working but because things were working -- i.e. the immune was getting stimulated, which I read could kick up more pain. (I think?? Someone can correct me if I'm wrong on these.)
- But mostly I hold tight to remembering that those 'tough cases,' a few of whom I've talked to personally, suffered sometimes for even a year or two w/ little to no symptomatic relief yet even they eventually recovered.
The first part of course is not a pretty thought when you're in the thick of it, b/c who wants to be in pain for two years, let alone two more minutes of this! But most everyone eventually seems to get better. I think Matia once said 95%, and I try to consider that that's pretty good odds.
Also, sometimes when I'm really down I try to conjure up a warrior image that I'm going into battle, going off to war, perhaps for quite some time, but I'm fighting for my health and it's worth any sacrifice.
I totally understand your frustration/fears/hopelessness and I feel your pain. Hang in there as best you can and I'm sure many others will be able to shed more light and hope on this subject of setbacks/regressions.
DO NOT GIVE UP. I too have
DO NOT GIVE UP. I too have had setbacks that have lasted for weeks, and I thought I was one of the unlucky few who could not get better. I even thought that I had made my body worse, but I was wrong. Matia did not let me give in to this horrible illness. She worked with me until we got it right. She even listened to me when I broke down while we were on the phone. She assured me that no one has gotten worse while in treatment nor after treatment. Since we could not figure out what was wrong, she suggested that I email her a list of all the foods that I was eating. She highlighted the ones she thought might be bad for me and a few days later I started feeling better. I have been in treatment for a year and a half and I am so much better now. Perhaps, you can make a list of all of your foods, creams, soaps...to help you see what might be hurting you. Also, think back on your vacation. Did you eat something that was not on the list? Were your probiotics properly refrigerated before you got them or while you were on vacation? If you were feeling better in April, then you can start feeling better again. Think positive even if it is hard to do. I wish you the best, and always remember that you are not alone. esalinas
aboro5
Hi, I am new in treatment with severe IC. After reading the posts on this site, I noticed that that some of the more serious cases took at least a year until they started to see major improvements (a few took 18 months until a big breakthrough was achieved). I am not going to evaluate my progress until next year. Then I have desided to stick with the program for another year. I know too many peope that have fully recovered from IC/VV to give up easily. Where else could I turn? In the midst of pain, it is so easy to get discouraged. Don't give up. Your best days are ahead!
don't give up!
I am one of those long term patients that took a long time before I started to really feel better for significant periods of time. I can't tell you how many ups & downs I experienced in the first couple of years. And I think it's quite normal to question the path you are on when you are in pain. What kept me going was knowing that Matia had helped so many people and when I would talk to her or email her she never seemed discouraged by my symptoms. She has been doing this for so long and that gave me a lot of confidence to continue with the program. I wasn't willing to accept what Western doctors were telling me which was that IC was a one way street, there was no getting better. I had too much of my life ahead of me to live in that state of pain and fear. I have had periods of time when I feel symptom free and think I've finally got this behind me, and then frequency and irritation creep back in - but it's manageable, the pain is nothing even close to what I had when I first started treatment (it's like a 1 or 2 on a scale of 10). A lot of my initial symptoms have been gone for a while. Things like the cold hands & feet and just feeling cold overall took a good 2 years for me to get a handle on - but now I don't have freezing cold hands and feet! and I don't have a sweater on in 90 degree weather - for me that is a very strong sign that my body is more in balance. Just keep communicating with Matia, sometimes it takes a while to hit on the proper combo, but you will get there. And remember that your body's balance is always changing - I have been on what feels like hundreds of different herb and probiotic combos, and I can see that my body is changing because sometimes what worked for me in the past doesn't work at all a few weeks later. It's all just so puzzling. Sometimes I get down on myself because it's taking me soooo long to get better, but if I take a look back at where I've come from I know I need to keep moving forward.
Carol
aboros5
I know the dissapointment you feel! I have been trying to get well for so long and really even though I didn't really start on the best path for doing that until one year ago I feel beyond ready to be well- my patience wears REEEEEAL thin some days and on those days god help anyone who might say the wrong thing to me! Let me tell you a story...Now this may sound a little out there but I don't really care-but you've been warned so here it goes. Sometimes and I don't do this that often but if I'm a situation and I am baffled beyond a sensible answer or conclusion in my waking conscious then I get all mystical and consult an oracle called the I-Ching for some clarity to the problem/ questions that got me all knotted up. Now its not something that I would recommend unless the truth is something you want to hear because sometimes I am absolutely stunned by how accurate my readings are- and sometimes its something I don't want to hear at all.Think for a moment how much faith and trust and courage we summon everyday to continue following a diet that most of our culture thinks is werid and nutty and not getting the return you want to see is without a doubt really discouraging. But the fact that you actually had the changes in your body that you reported- the IBS- gone the bladder symptoms that showed up and are almost gone- the changes in nerve pain- these are things that indicate that it is working. The VV for me is the last thing that I got as a symptom or rather it may have been there for years but it got much stronger a few years ago along with the increase in bladder pain and it got more pronounced to me as my bladder got better my attention seemed to focus on it. It is proving to be the last thing to leave. I'm 11 months into treatment and I still can't say that I have gotten rid of bladder/VV pain but it has improved considerably in its quality and so on. ALOT happened between 7- 11 months! I really think that improvement can be relative. what I was excited about at 7 months and what I was excited about at 11 months are different. You are putting alot of pressure on yourself to be well NOW or at least show significant changes the way you want to see them but your body is showing significant changes at 7 months as you shared and your body is doing the best it can! You are going to be fine. I did an I- ching casting recently and the message was along these lines... the process of the healing is what is important right now- not a quick fix and to it said for me to release the endless fixation on the end result. that the healing I was seeking was going to come from the PROCESS - that there was certainly things to learn ALONG THE WAY- that I would not learn from the end coming now and not in its time. That there were layers of things to emerge in time that had significance to examine and release and trying to force an end result- was waste of my energy.to stop trying to speed up the process with heavy expectations - to realx and know it would happen but in its own time. It was me who was simply being impatient and that I should accept the responsibility of the situation knowing and trusting that the current "stagnation" will shift and I'll be on my way. This has proven to be true. when I look in the mirror I see my dark eye circles have gone away and I'm seeing less yeast come out of me. Lavish time to get better on yourself trusting that you will improve because you have had pockets of "better" before you can reach them again and again and again until they get longer and longer. Bladder, legs, Vagina, hips, TMJ, GI tract - all connected and they all improve. Expanded definations of improvement should include - changes and shifts etc... thank you for listening and reading. hope this is helpful or encouraging. you are encouraging and inspiring to me. Mary
thank you
yesterday was a really dark day and i appreciate your responses to my venting. like many of you i feel guilty posting during times like these because i don't want to drag anyone down. but, last night was a pretty bad one for me and it was one of those moments where you just feel you have no place else to turn. in the end, i am glad i did post. i really, genuinely needed a ray of hope last night, probably more than i have ever needed one since i started treatment, and you helped to give me that. i'm still deeply sad and frustrated by what i have been experiencing, and as much as i try to make sense of it all, so much still confuses me. but the good news is that my body does feel calmer today. the last change yesterday seemed to have eased things up. still struggling but not to that degree which is SUCH a welcome change. after two months of such difficulty, a little calm goes a long way. i keep telling myself what you all have said that the little things i've noticed gettng better mean something, but until i start to see at least some improvement in the vulvodynia and nerve pain, it's just so damn hard to believe. But i'm trying. there is so much wisdom, inspiration, and kindness on this board... i really hope that some day i can return the favor and be a light in the dark for you.
Honeybee, thank you
I just want to say thank you to Honeybee for your well-articulated, helpful and from-the-heart share. I am always so taken with your posts, learn so much from them and they just speak to me, even in my darkest moments.
i second that IC-Hope
honeybee your words have been like a life-raft for me on many occasions. thank you.
everyone
You are welcome! Thank you! Yall make me feel so good! I come here everyday to check in! ok I'll check in like all the time- but I'm kind of addicted to my computer anyway-don't feel bad about venting here-having a bad day is aweful but no one is going to judge you or be discouraged by your struggle -if they are then maybe they shouldn't overidentify with other folk' treatment path- if anything its nice to relate and say "yeah...uh huh! I know thas right!" we don't usually get discouraged cause we know bad days pass. Bad weeks and months can happen hell- bad years can happen with varying degrees but they get better too- they pass. I think its good to have a record and speak the truth- this is a support board and we also can share our positives and victories. I love it when people check back in and let us know how they are doing cause I kind of worry bout folks sometimes! Isn't it werid to think that we all live in different parts of the world but are connected by this little electronic network? Some of the most beautiful smart caring and creative women/men-(I know yall are out there!) post and read here! not to get all gooey or nothing but thanks for the love for the honesty and support everyone. metta waves and love to you all
ditto
Ditto that post from Marry ( honeybee) on honesty. I know for me I struggle with the pain but other things are improving and i know as others have gotten better I will get there too. The yeast is a killer and it takes on it's own personality so when i get all crazy i just tell myself that is the yeast talking. People who are getting scared about others taking a while to improve should reflect on my post about not compairing yourself to others. Were all here to support eachother so please be honest if you can't say it here where are you going to say it? For me I love all the support I can get and that is why i have the chats on the weekends. I want to welcome you all who are struggling to join in and just message me for the number if you like to get some more support. I wish we had a chat program built into thi board that would be nice.
Just want to chime in
I've had so much going on in my life lately, I haven't had a chance to post, but have been checking in on this post because it has helped keep me going, too. Thanks for sharing when things are going awful, because it helps me a lot, as much as hearing about all the improvements.I too have been going through a rough time when things seem like they are not working again. I was having extreme success, my urgency, my only real noticible symptom, was almost minimal for a few days at a time, and I was so happy, and felt that I was finally noticibly responding to the herbs/probiotics. But that didn't last and now I've been back to having my urge flaring a lot again, and changing protocol almost daily. Even though I read and read and know that it's part of the disease, and Matia told me it was going to be this way, I still get so discouraged and scared and depressed because that urgency really takes so much joy and ease out of my life. So thanks to all for sharing your experience. It keeps me hopeful, and going. And knowing that this too shall pass. I'm still holding on to the victory that my symptom has been actually minimal for a number of days out of the last 2 1/2 months. That's progress.