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So this past Sunday, I went to a friends BBQ, and they all drink... So to make myself feel like I fit in, I brought with me some sparkling water... I was thinking oh, no one will notice that I don't drink.... Also at nights my stomach bloats a lot, and towards the end of the BBQ, I could feel it start to bloat, and pop out.... Well I was about to leave, and started saying bye to everyone, and one of the girls there asked me if I was pregnant!.... =(.... I wanted to cry a little.... I don't know if it was the sparkling water I was drinking, or that my stomach was starting to bloat..... I am not fat, I have actually lost weight from being in treatment, I am 5' 7'' and 150 pounds, and most of the weight it in my bottom.... but it did hurt my feelings a little...geeze.... Why don't some people think before they ask a questions like that.... I was so emotional when I got home let out a few tears.
Maybe she saw that you
Maybe she saw that you weren't drinking and that's why she made the comment. Don't be sad, you'll be better soon : )
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dont worry about that!!! just eat delicious food and focus on getting better. im sure christine is right, and she noticed you werent drinking.
most people are insensitive and they dont even realize!!
Thanks, I figured it was one
Thanks, I figured it was one or the other...some people just don't understand what they say could actually be kinda rude... But yeah she probably just thought maybe cuz I wasn't drinking...after it happened, I thought I should have just said "No, I'm just not a drinker." I got to get used to just telling people right away that I don't drink.
Aww (((((hug)))) That's not
Aww (((((hug)))) That's not funny at all. My neighbor asked me if I was pregnant a couple of years ago. I always had a pretty "good" body but I had gained seriously about 5 lbs. I went in the house and cried and cried. So that was before IC. People should NOT ask that question!!
I am so sorry,
Calieve. I had someone say something insensitive once before I knew I had IC, because I had to keep getting up to go to the bathroom over and over. I was so hurt. My mom used to say to us growing up, "You can think what you want, but you don't have to say it." A big hug sent to you and keep on getting well. :)
Thanks everyone, your posts
Thanks everyone, your posts do make it a lot better =)
a little tact?
I'm sorry that happened to you Calieve, ugh! It seems to me that if you have to ask someone if they're pregnant, you shouldn't ask them! I was once at a yoga class and the instructor indelicately asked this woman in the class if she was pregnant by miming a giant belly and pointing at her. The woman was very confused and finally the instructor just asked (verbally) if she was pregnant and the woman said "no!" and then there was this awkward pause. It was like being on "The Office" or something!
Re: not drinking, I think you're right to be brave about just being frank about not drinking. At this point, I don't even think twice about being an obvious non-drinker. Generally no one cares, and if anyone does care, I figure it reflects on their own discomfort with themselves rather than my situation. If people ask why I don't drink and I don't want to talk about it, I just say I have an allergy. People tend to then just start talking about their own allergies, etc. and away we go!
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When people get annoying about drinking I say "If I drink, I get pain equivalent to cancer pain and symptoms that mimic end stage renal failure". They usually stop asking after that. : )
That's a good one
That's a good one researchnerd... I do notice that a lot more people have so many different allergies these days, so it is being more accepted.
OMG, that's a funny story
OMG, that's a funny story ceb217.... I think some people just don't learn what is acceptable or not until they mess up and ask something inappropriate and feel awkward after....Oh well, maybe it was more awkward for the girl that asked me, than it was for me...lol
I ditto everyone else
I ditto everyone else calieve. People are so dumb some times with the whole pregnancy thing. I remember once when I was 20 someone asked me if I was pregnant, mind you I weighed 98lbs and had no belly fat but was wearing an empire waisted type of top that I guess looked maternity. I never wore that again lol. But now that I'm 8 months pregnant and huge, nobody wants to say the words pregnant until I mention it first. Its just weird that way. It has nothing to do with you. Its all about them!