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Hi all, so here I am again needing to share the things that even my family and friends do not know. My partner and I are waiting to have children, it's my 37th birthday next month and the clock is ticking! There's things that I know about the risks of passing health problems to our children through our own immune systems being weak and good bacteria low and who knows what else so I wait and wait and in the meantime I worry that I'll miss the chance.
I know that the speed of my recovery from my health issues and IC are directly related to my long term insomnia - this is the major imbalance so I work on this and I follow the diet/probiotics/supplements and live cleanly and without stress as much as possible. My concern is the length of time it will take for me to improve significantly. Just before Christmas I noticed some changes, it seemed as though the bacteria that's been pushed back into my bladder walls was working it's way out through the uretha and so I was experiencing some mild burning with which I was pleased. I sabotaged this with food excesses over a week or two and haven't seen this again.
I suppose my question is - am I right? Does this sound like the route I will take? Urgency and frequency have been my primary bladder issues for 7 years, with burning/cystitis only when flaring so I'm figuring that I've a long way to go if I'm to experience all the burning and pain as the bacteria leaves my bladder. I know I'm on the right track - I'm peeling off the layers and hopefully undoing the damage but how long do I wait..?
do not self treat
Molly-
I don't mean to be harsh but, seriously, stop self treating. You are not a trained professional, and following random people on this site's treatment protocol is NOT going to help you. (I saw your post about getting RP awhile back). I thought you learned your lesson awhile back when you developed that crazy skin problem!!
You have 3 option as I see it. 1) See Matia. You've said you don't have the money, but I promise I have less money than you (seriously). My net worth is very negative, as I am a graduate student. This is your health, the most important thing. Ava trekked from the Czech republic--again, another poor graduate student. So, seriously, if we can do it, so can you.
2)I know of a doctor in London that a friend of mine used to help her with candida that was very helpful to her. I can contact her and get the name for you
3) See a GAPS trained professional (although someone said this hurt her, and Matia is against this)
Self treatment is very very stupid, and dangerous, as you already know!!!
Good post
Molly, I am dealing with an imbalanced child. Now, multiply your problems by two.
You still have time. Many women have babies after 40.
Wise advice
I had my first baby at 38 and my second at age 42. Shortly after was hit with IC. Both of my children have had IC related issues. My daughter and I treat with Matia. My son treats with a local Traditional Chinese Herbalist. Matia will get you ready to conceive and help you have healthy babies. Find a way to come and see her. She will change your life!
i agree with researcherd
molly,
i want to second what researcherd said. no one but matia can guide you through this disease and tell you what your symptoms mean. this is not something you can manage on your own and you can cause serious harm to yourself by experimenting with the supplments based on the other regimens of other patients.
furthermore, i have serious questions regarding your logic. like researchnerd, i don't mean to sound harsh, but how do anticipate managing the costs of raising a child when you claim you cannot afford treatment?
if you are truly concerned about your biological clock you will seek dr. brizman's care so you can get better as soon as possible instead of leaving this to chance. matia maintains that a healthy body will do what should it should for much longer.
take out a loan, borrow money from family, do whatever it takes to make this investmet in yourself and future. you know this is the right path or you wouldn't be on this site.
Wow - I consider myself
Wow - I consider myself told! Taken all your comments on board and of course I want to see Matia. The finances and the baby thing - my other half would support the baby but not the trip to see Matia.
Thanks all.
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Then perhaps he's not the right guy. Get the money yourself. I'm assuming you work?
I have to say I agree with
I have to say I agree with what everyone else said. If you don't have the money for treatment how could you possibly have the money for a baby. Do you have any idea what it costs to raise a child today, it is staggering, that is why my husband and I chose to have only one. Please hop on a plane and see Matia, it isn't that expensive. My plane ticket, hotel, car, appt. and 1st month herbs all totaled about $800. That is nothing when it's your health you are talking about.
I wanted to add that my other
I wanted to add that my other half IS tremendously supportive and understanding and supports me financially, he already pays to keep a roof over myself and 19 year old sons head but not enough to get a loan to fly me half way round the world to see someone who for all he knows is just a very good business woman (not my thoughts-his) (please don't say anything bad about him as I would take offense although you can call me stupid til the cows come home!)
My expertise as a herbalist - yes is limited but I do work in the supplements industry and I am product trained..The vitiligo I developed is very likely down to the goldenseal -the dose was too much and for too long. It's still grows and I probably will end up with an entirely white arm so yes I have learned a lesson and although I really appreciate everyones comments, I still am free to make my own choices AND my own mistakes!
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So you work. That means you can get 800 dollars to go to LA. After that the cost is much less. If you're already paying for the food because you're following the diet, its just the herbs and the appts. I don't have appts very frequently--every 6 weeks or so.
Molly, if your other half
Molly, if your other half has gone as far as supporting you and your son, he can cover a trip to LA. Work on it. You just need to find the right method to get it on your side.
Btw, I had a baby at 42, too. A little late, but nonetheless.
Think about how long you've been treating yourself. You are basically wasting your time now. Of course, you are free to have a different opinion.
I think I need to make the
I think I need to make the point that I have issues other than IC that actually cause the imbalance that need to be sorted in order to get well before taking the plunge in treatment with Matia. My healthand IC will only improve to a point unless I learn how to sleep!!!! If money was no object of course I'd be on that plane but I'm afraid $800 wouldn't even cover my airfare from the UK but I agree that it would be a trip well worth the expense. I don't doubt Matia's expertise in treating IC but she's not a sleep expert.
And researchnerd - I started work just 5 weeks ago after for the first time in 4 years, I'm only able to work a few hours so my earnings are poultry.
I feel more than a little stupid about my orginal post. I wouldn't honestly take the risk and am waiting it out as long as possible, I was just looking for more of an understanding of the healing process as well as sympathy I suppose given another birthday is looming..
I do often feel my posts have no place here as it's different for those who are in treatment and whose underlying cause isn't insomnia. I suppose that's why there are so many watchers on this sight !
missmadmolly, due to my ic, i
missmadmolly,
due to my ic, i wake up every hr unforunately and by seeing dr. b, i'm starting to have couple hrs of sleep at night. definitely, she'll help u, too molly.
the women on this site
The women on this site are amazing. I consider meeting all of you, albeit virtually, one of the rare blessings of IC.
Missmadmolly, please know that my harsh words come from a good place. My frank honesty was intended to motivate you to come see Matia. Ultimately, this is your body and you must decide what is best for you, but I will say that things i have dealt with my entire life, including bouts of insomia, have disappeared through treatment. I can now sleep 9.5 hours without waking up. It is amazing.
My final tidbit, before I bow out of this conversation, is that I fought bitterly with my parents over treatment. I am young and work for a non-profit, and had wiped out my meager savings on my diagnosis and a resolving a bedbug situation(lovely!) before finding Matia. I wanted finacial help for treatment, and my parents, like your boyfriend, thought Matia was just a good business woman and pressured me to find local help. They would not contribute any money to treatment. But I knew in my heart this was the path for me and I would not accept a lifetime of valium (which is what my doctor recommended. seriously) or experimenting with other meds that may or may not work.
So I cried, then incurred some debt buying a ticket to get to LA. Despite the sadness in going at it alone, the financial stress, the nervousness, and everything else, I was really freaking proud of myself. This was quite possible the best decision I ever made.
Good luck, whatever you do.
Thank you all so much for
Thank you all so much for your responses and thank you Hopeful - I'd been waiting in anticipation for your response and you didn't let me down X I hadn't realised that you'd suffered with the same sort of insomnia as me. It's been 20 years for me now but since discovering this site my sleep has improved alot from what it was and I too quit the sleeping tablets, it's only really since my recent employment that I've come to use them now and again. Insomnia has been hardwire into my system and it's a hard habit to break but I still believe I can beat it and certainly with Matia's support.
I want to defend my other half, he lives with me, he strokes me to sleep EVERY night!! I'm very lucky to have him - he's my rock. He also sees how I battle against rules such as the diet. He's not saying no you can't see Matia, he's saying, you need to be able help yourself for it to be of any benefit. The rebel in me fights any form of rule even if it's for my own good hence why I've not let myself sleep for 20 years - I AM my own worse enemy!! But I've learnt so much here. I'm accepting things, I'm not so angry, I'm calm and I want to get well so I can have the things I want in life.
Bless you all and thanks so much for your thoughts.