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Hello everyone.

I'm in treatment for a long time, with ups and downs, and a stop in between, i have problems keeping to the diet.

We live in Holland and had no computer for a long time and more problems, now that i have found the way, i made a start for an te. appt. with Matia again.

I am 18 weeks pregnant not planned, it's our fouth child, a baby is most welcome, the pregnancy however is VERY BAD going.

My bladder was not to bad, until yestreday, it turned around at once badly, and my depressions start again, i have to work 3 days a week,  let them know i am sick again is no option, as i have been at home for a very long time after the third one.

i'm back at wotk now for a year.

I'm thinking of stop this pregnancy because i cannot handle this, i think my life will be in danger because of myself,  and it's not fair to my husband and kids as they have been trough so much with me.

I cannot function during the day if it stays like this or get's worse maybe.

I hope there is anyone who has been in the same situation, and has ideas for me, everything is welcome.

Carola

 

p.s i also posted on the topic; questions for ladies who've been pregnant with ic.

      but thought it was not fair to put my misery there to much.

 

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Claire

Hi Carola,
I'm so sorry to hear that your pregnancy is so challenging for you. It sounds like you're in a real conundrum and weighing your fears against your pregnancy and new baby is an intense burden to face. The only thing I would say is that pregnancy is a temporary state that you will get through, but if you think you can't handle it, you have to decide what is best for you and your family.  I'm not a mother but often think about how much I want children all the while worrying about how my body/mind would be able to handle it.  So, I understand your concerns in an abstract way at least.  There are many women on the forum who have gone through pregnancy with IC, and have many varied stories, but they make it through!  I wish I had more knowledge but I'm sure some of them will chime in here later.
Best wishes,
Claire

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Hopeful

Robin,
I have had two babies with having IC. One was only a year old when I went to see Matia.
I would beg you to look at your other children, and imagine on of them never having the chance to be born. I would not even think of ending this pregnancy. I think it was meant to be. I think the pain from wondering if you did the right thing by terminating a pregnancy will be much worse later on, then any IC symptoms you'll ever have.
Pregnancy will be over in a few months. Hang in there. Do the best you can, and be easy on yourself.  I was violently sick for the first 6 months in both of my pregnancy. Not a lot of support, as in I had  no "stay with me" mom or mother in law. I though, look at my second baby, who has been a strong willed child from the very beginning, poor sleeper.... and I'm so glad I went through it all. I had ups and down in pregnancy with the IC. You are almost half way there. 18 month old baby in your tummy is very devolped. Ovdiously I am against ending a pregnancy, but please understand I feel like it would be the best thing for you too, to go ahead and have this precious child. Like I said before, ending a life of your unborn child will do much more damage then going ahead and finishing what you started. YOu can do it! I'm aslo very sorry for the pain you have to go through, and I DO understand.
Hopeful

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Mimij67

I can't imagine how hard this is. Hopefully Dr. Brizman can help you make the pregnancy a little more comfortable. And things are changing every day so maybe your symptoms will improve again. Maybe even some small dietary changes and some things Dr. Brizman recommends will help you!! I know of women that have gone through pregnancy with severe nausea and vomiting multiple times per day had having feeding tubes put in their arms and being on bedrest (not with IC) and now they have their baby and are so happy they stuck it out. If you can get to 35 weeks the baby will be ready. 
Use this for support or come join the Fans of Dr. Brizman Facebook group. Lots of support there too.
 
Best wishes!!

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blondy

Hi Robin,
I had a difficult pregnancy, not necessary with IC, and I worked a lot while pregnant. My daughter turned out to be the most amazing person. We are happy to have her in our lives. You are 22 weeks away from meeting your son/daughter in person. There are a lot of other difficult experiences other than pregnancy, we get through them all. It all works out in the end.
 

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livandlex

I came down with IC when I was 11 weeks pregnant - you can do this Robin! You have Matia on your side to guide you through, you have us cheering you on and a beautiful angel waiting for you as a reward! My IC was the same pregnant - not pregnant - I didn't find Matia until after my baby was a year. Please don't assume you will be affected negatively. Sending love and healing thoughts your way :)
Claire

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robin

My problem is also my work, i know things will not get better during pregnancy, maybe even gets worse, but i work 19 hours a week,  and tell them i'm sick is not an option because i have been sick for 1,5 years after my daughter was born,  that will be the end of my work.

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blondy

Not having to work can be liberating.